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Stage One: Meeting
The purpose of stage one is to determine if there is enough chemistry, commonality and interest to warrant dating. For some people, it may take a couple of meetings to determine if they want to date a particular person. What is needed here is to come across as someone who is interesting and fun to be with.
Stage Two: Dating
Stage two is the romantic stage and usually lasts for 2 to 3 months. During this stage the two of you want to spend increasingly amounts of time together. People often describe this stage as feeling physically attracted or infatuated with the other person. Because two people are having fun and really attracted to each other they tend to overlook those cute irritancies of their partner in order to focus on the strong attraction and the positive feelings. What is needed during this stage is to understand that without the infatuation stage a relationship could not move on to the next stage. So if you and your partner are on two different pages with regard to your feelings for each other, it is best for you to be patient and wait for you partner to catch up. Doing this demonstrates to your partner that you are caring, patient and supportive.
Stage Three: Differences
Stage three is where differences between the couple begin coming to the surface. It is also where each partner will decide for his and her self, whether to continue the relationship. The relationship now focuses on how the two of you work through disagreements, differences of opinions and ideas as well as different approaches to sex, communication and commitment. It is also an opportunity to both learn and use problem-solving skills with your partner. Arguing in a relationship is not the problem. The problem arises when couples don’t know or use healthy skills to resolve conflict. Stage three is also an opportunity to build a deeper relationship with your partner as each of you recognizes that you are loved and accepted for being your true self. This is where trust develops in a relationship.
Stage Four: Independence and Interdependence
Stage four is a when the couple learns how to be a couple and still maintain a level of independence within the relationship. For most couples this stage begins to show up after the couple has been dating for longer than six months. During this period of time the couple begins to incorporate their previous social relationships and interests into the couple relationship. For some people the fear of their partner wanting to socialize without them, triggers feelings of insecurity, or fear of an imminent ending to the relationship. This is usually not the case, however if the partner with the insecurity does not address his or her own issues, the result maybe unintended break-up.
Stage Five: Healthy Commitment
Stage Five is where the individuals are will to make a long term commitment with one another. Having successfully completed the stages above, the couple has built a foundation on trust, honesty and integrity. For some this is marriage for others this means being in a monogamous relationship.
I think you will see from the stages that you and your boyfriend are not in the same stage. I believe that you are in stage 5 and your boyfriend is in stage 2. This would explain why you are disappointed that he does not introduce you as his girlfriend. Should you continue to be disappointed, it is likely he will feel the pressure of your frustration. This will likely lead him to run the other way. My suggestion to you is to slow down and allow your boyfriend time to realize his feelings for you are deeper than just friends. This won’t happen by you pointing it out to him. It will happen by him going through the stages at his own pace.
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