Valentines Day

………..Its the time of year for romance!

Young At Heart Dating does thousands of introductions this year.

Here are some links for those of you who have started something special up and who are looking for some Valentines Ideas that are appropriate for whatever stage you are in your relationship.
 

Valentines Day Links

http://www.young-at-heart.com.au/history_of_valentine.htm
http://www.valentines.com/
http://www.romancestuck.com
http://www.sheetudeep.com/typesofkisses.html
http://www.romancestuck.com/articles/valentines/7-valentines-gifts-for-men.htm
http://www.romancestuck.com/holidays/valentines-women-gift-guide.htm
http://www.chiff.com/articles/valentines-flowers.htm
http://www.valentine.gr/valentinesday_en.php
http://www.valentine.gr/RValentino_en.php
http://www.sheetudeep.com/kissesallover.html
http://www.sheetudeep.com/typesofkisses.html
http://www.sheetudeep.com/love/valentine/index.html    
http://shopping.ninemsn.com.au/content/valentine-s-day-2009/ctid4147/?contenttext=contentname:valentine-s-day-2009&ptnrID=815
How to say love in other lanquages

http://www.valentines.com/Loveinlanguages.htm

VALENTINES SPECIAL FEATURE

History of Valentine…
St. Valentine's Day falls on February 14, and is the traditional day on which lovers in certain cultures let each other know about their love, commonly by sending Valentine's cards, which are often anonymous. The history of Valentine's day can be traced back to an obscure Catholic Church feast day, said to be in honor of Saint Valentine. The day's associations with romantic love arrived after the High Middle Ages, during which the concept of romantic love was formulated.

February 14th is celebrated as a lovers' holiday today, with the giving of candy, flowers, Valentine's Day card and other gifts between couples in love, it originated as a tribute to St. Valentine, a Catholic bishop.

St. Valentine was a priest near Rome, who in 270 AD had been beheaded by Emperor Claudius. At that time the Roman Emperor, Claudius II, had issued an edict forbidding marriage. Claudius had determined that married men made poor soldiers because they were emotionally attached to their families. So he banned marriage from his empire. Just before his execution, he asked for pen and paper from his jailor, and signed a farewell message to the jailer's daughter and signed it, "From Your Valentine." He was stoned and beheaded on February 24, 270 AD.

Story of Cupid…
Another valentine icon you may be wondering about is Cupid (Latin cupido, "desire"). In Roman mythology Cupid is the son of Venus, goddess of love. His counterpart in Greek mythology is Eros, god of love. Cupid is often said to be a mischievous boy who goes around wounding both gods and humans with his arrows, causing them to fall in love. The Romans believed white roses grew where the tears of Venus fell, as she mourned the loss of her beloved Adonis. Her son Cupid, while being stung by a bee, shot arrows in the rose garden; the sting of the arrows became thorns. Venus pricked her foot on a thorn, and the droplets of blood dyed the roses red.

Sending Roses on Valentine’s Day
The rose is the symbol of love, of magic, of hope, and of passion, perfect to let your loved one know how you feel about him or her! The rose represents ultimate beauty and perfection. It is the messenger of Romance!

A dozen red roses remains the classic Valentine's Day favorite (though chocolate may secretly be the more cherished gift). However, many women report that they adore roses in other colors just as much. There are hundreds of colors to choose from. The choices are endless and it's easier than ever to select a rose that is as unique as your sweetheart.

Valentine is all about Love, Love & Love...
Valentine's Day – with its colorful cards, mouth-watering chocolates and silky lingerie, gives material form to this spiritual value. It is a moment for you to pause, to ignore the trivialities of life–and to celebrate the selfish pleasure of being worthy of someone's love and of having found someone worthy of yours.

You love someone because he or she is a value–a selfish value to you, as determined by your standards–just as you are a value to him or her.

To love a person is selfish because it means that you value that particular person, that he or she makes your life better, that he or she is an intense source of joy–to you. A "disinterested" love is a contradiction in terms. One cannot be neutral to that which one values. The time, effort and money you spend on behalf of someone you love are not sacrifices, but actions taken because his or her happiness is crucially important to your own. Such actions would constitute sacrifices only if they were done for a stranger–or for an enemy. Those who argue that love demands self-denial must hold the bizarre belief that it makes no personal difference whether your loved one is healthy or sick, feels pleasure or pain, is alive or dead.

The nature of love places certain demands on those who wish to enjoy it. You must regard yourself as worthy of being loved. Those who expect to be loved, not because they offer some positive value, but because they don't–i.e., those who demand love as altruistic duty–are parasites. Someone who says "Love me just because I need it" seeks an unearned spiritual value–in the same way that a thief seeks unearned wealth.

To quote a famous line from The Fountainhead:
"To say 'I love you,' one must know first how to say the 'I '"

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Below is a recent article published on an online dating site scams that will show you why use are advice to use a reputabe and safe way of meeting rather than Online dating sites. that promise FREE AND EASY love connections.

On Line Dating Sites Scams. WARNING ! THE Age News Paper Sydney 4 December 2011

lbattersby@theage.com.au

The competition watchdog and online dating industry will crack down on fraudsters exploiting lonely hearts next year, after more than 1600 Australians reported losing $17 million in the online search for romance this year, up from $15 million last year.

The Australian Competition and Consumer Commission is asking the online dating and romance industry to comment on draft guidelines for cleaning up the industry.

"Online dating and romance scams cause significant harm to Australian consumers, targeting people from all walks of life, education, background and age group," the regulatory body said.

"These scams typically involve a genuine user of a dating website being contacted by a potential admirer who is a scammer in disguise. After forming a relationship with the victim, the scammer plays on emotional triggers to get the victim to provide money, gifts or personal details."

A group of industry representatives has been working on draft guidelines since July. The ACCC's announcement comes just days after a story emerged of a NSW-based doctor who paid $3 million over several years to an online dating agency in the belief he was helping a potential girlfriend.

The ACCC would like dating agencies to provide customers with warnings about scams, and verify online profiles to "detect and disrupt the activities of those seeking to engage in fraud". It also wants dating agencies to set up internal complaint handling procedures.

Comments were sought by December 16 and the ACCC expects to launch new guidelines in early 2012.

On Line Dating Sites Scams. WARNING !

Living expenses:Lowest living expense of a person living alone in Australia is about $500 according to the figures given by The World Bank. However with the needs of an individual, this cost could grow or shrink. If you are living with your partner, that means that you are sharing the expenses together, then you will have to bare almost $300 as a single person. Now you are saving $200 a month if you are living with a partner.

Food:Food is the basic necessity of a person. It is seen that this can also be reduced if a person is not living alone. If you buy a milk pack of 500ml, it will cost you around $4. On the other hand, if you buy a pack of milk of 1 liter, it will cost you around $7. If you are living alone, there is no need to buy a liter's pack because after first usage, the rest of the milk may have to be wasted. However, when you are living with your partner, you can buy a liter's pack and save $1 on each milk packs. Similarly, if you plan to buy things in bulk, you will get even more discounts which will lead to even more savings of your money.

Travel expenses:This may not be applied to everyone, but if your partner or you have a car, then you both can share the traveling expenses on gas and other stuff which would be much less than traveling in a cab. This is one of the biggest reasons (if it complies with your condition) to save money in global financial crises.

Security:The sense of security about your job and living is very important these days, and unfortunately it is not guaranteed with global financial crisis. You have absolutely no idea when your boss makes a decision which throws you out of the company due to recession or anything else. The sense of security is provided if you are living with someone who can support you for a couple of months while you are working on finding a suitable job for yourself.

Emotions:Emotions are best managed and flourished when there is someone who can discuss your problems and support you with your hard times. If the world is going through a tough time, you are also going through the same because we all live in the same world. Emotional support is very important in this world, which can either be gained by your friends or life partner.

Here are a few tips to look for in your date’s gestures and other involuntary actions:

·         If you find her fidgeting with objects and showing signs of nervousness, like smiling and laughing without any reason, or consciously adjusting her clothes then she is interested in you.

·         If you see her moistening her lips or biting you can be sure that she in imagining you two together in a hot scene.

·         If you see her lean away from you or gazing in another direction, then probably she is not interested in you. It’s better to move on and let her find her soul mate elsewhere.

·         How a woman handles her glass indicated two situations. If she repeatedly touches the edge of the glass, she is hot for you. However, if she keeps tapping the glass with her nails impatiently, then she wants to leave.

·         With her gestures, a woman unknowingly indicates where she likes to be touched. Note if she repeatedly touches her hands, her neck or her chest, be sure to touch there, when you become intimate with her and win direct access to her heart.

You can learn a lot about a woman on your first date, if you pay attention to her. It is attention that every woman wants from a man.

Matchmakers and dating sites have experienced a quantum increase in new registrations immediately after an area is hit by a natural disaster. Experts say that need to be loved and protected is what brings people closer together. Those struck by a calamity have needs beyond what the world offers them in terms of money and material. They desire time, affection and someone to hold on, which they value more than any donation.

Let's be realistic, though.

All you have to base your selection on is what the person told you on his/her data sheet or video. Chances are pretty good he/she didn't say much about less appealing characteristics.

Matchmakers have an advantage.

After each match, a good matchmaker gets feedback from both parties about compatibility and suitability. He\she develops a good feel for individual preferences and personalities.

Matchmakers frequently do a better job, simply because they are better informed that we can ever hope to be.

The second difference, related to the first, is who gets "chosen."

In a "free for all" environment such as the online dating sites, it seems the "hottest" 10% of the people see most of the "action." These are the same people who do well at happy hours, parties, dances, and everywhere else.

There is nothing wrong with that, more power to them. But the rest of us neat people may be overlooked in the "feeding frenzy" to grab those 10%.

Matchmakers gain an appreciation for the individuality and uniqueness of each person in their group. They can match people who might never realize they would make a lasting couple.

The third difference is responsibility.

The online dating site recruits as many people as possible. It's your job to find someone in the group you would like to meet who is willing to meet you.

Even if the online dating sites already has a hundred people similar to you, and even if those folks are having no luck meeting anyone who is interested in them, that is o.k. You can still join. Who knows, maybe your luck will be better!?!

In any event, after your transaction clears, you are on your own with online dating sites.

Personal Dating Services and Introduction Agents / Matchmakers, on the other hand, actually match you with members.

That means they must know at the time they accept you, they have some folks who fit you.

That also means they can't accept everyone who wants to join.

If other singles similar to you are having a hard time matching someone, the matchmaker cannot ethically bring you into the group.

Why?

Because it probably won't work for you either until new members change the group's composition.

The fourth difference involves those valuable commodities, your time and your very tender heart.

In a dating service, you make many trips to and from the office. This is very time consuming.

We all know it is easy to have "chemistry" with people who don't have a chance of maintaining a compatible, life-long relationship with us. Unfortunately, lust blinds us to this incompatibility for months.

So the time wasted driving and going through files is nothing compared to wasting six or seven months of your life when the one you picked turns out to be the wrong person for you.

The matchmaker does the "work" for you. based on your criteria, he/she rules out many people who might look right, but have no chance of a relationship with you.

Even more important, a matchmaker, via feedback from members, can normally spot that not-so-nice person with the good personality who can break your heart.

So a matchmaker saves you time and possibly, heartbreak. If your time and heart are as important to you as mine are to me, that's a crucial factor in choosing between the two types of services.

I realize it sounds as if I am biased in favor of matchmakers & personal introductory Agents

I am!

Based on my research, I am convinced matchmakers do a better job for a higher percentage of their members.

Does this mean all matchmaking services are a good deal?

Not all. Some are no better than the worst oneline dating sites, and some of the dating sites are a perfect fit for some people. Like everything else, you have to use good judgment.

To help you judge, let me suggest some things to consider:

OK, this is straight from the "Smart Consumer 101" class but it needs to be mentioned.

Conclusion

The right matchmaker can help you find someone who is a good fit for you.

A online dating service can provide you a with a way to contact a lot of people who are looking for someone often anyone to date.

Not doing either leaves you exactly where you are now.

Enough said!

Contact Della Cory
(02) 9436 1315
for a free consultation

Every woman dreams of walking into a room of men and being the center of attention. The dream can turn into reality. A woman has to have the looks, be confident, fun and not afraid to flirt.

Let's start with flirting. A lot of women don't believe that they should flirt. Why not? It always seemed to me that women view flirting towards a man as taboo. On the contrary, it is a fantasycome true for guys. You can definitely give compliments to a man if you think he looks good in a suit. There's no harm in that and he will think you are down to earth. These subtle moves will keep your feminine image in tact, while impressing that guy. They will be thinking about you all night 9 out of 10 times. This will also send the signal to him that it is ok to approach you.

Now we go into confidence. This goes hand in hand with the flirting. Think about it. Every time that 'power' woman walks in and struts across the room as though she knows what she wants, it gets attention from both men and women. They, especially men, will make every attempt to get your attention. There is also sexiness to it.

Looks goes without saying. In this social environment, looks are everything. And you've heard the expression that first appearance is what people go by. Before you go out, make sure you powder up and dress to turn heads. It will also help boost up your confidence. If you know that you've dressed to impress then you feel good. And you will move how you feel.

Last, but not least, be fun. Most women make the mistake of keeping that, 'approach me and die' face. This keeps but only the most aggressive men from approaching you. You want to appear approachable to any good prospect. Try smiling. Trust me ladies, nothing gets and holds the attention of a man, than a woman who struts in the room with both confidence and a smile. It tells a man, 'oh my goodness, I must approach her before the night is done.

Ladies, if this makes sense to you then get to it. If you're wondering how I'm so sure of this information then just take me. I'm a guy speaking from a guy's perspective. This is also actually what I've always wanted to tell a woman from both my encounters at social events and from what's been relayed from other guys.

ATTRACTING A MAN 4 EASY STEPS

Every woman dreams of walking into a room of men and being the center of attention. The dream can turn into reality. A woman has to have the looks, be confident, fun and not afraid to flirt.

Let's start with flirting. A lot of women don't believe that they should flirt. Why not? It always seemed to me that women view flirting towards a man as taboo. On the contrary, it is a fantasycome true for guys. You can definitely give compliments to a man if you think he looks good in a suit. There's no harm in that and he will think you are down to earth. These subtle moves will keep your feminine image in tact, while impressing that guy. They will be thinking about you all night 9 out of 10 times. This will also send the signal to him that it is ok to approach you.

Now we go into confidence. This goes hand in hand with the flirting. Think about it. Every time that 'power' woman walks in and struts across the room as though she knows what she wants, it gets attention from both men and women. They, especially men, will make every attempt to get your attention. There is also sexiness to it.

Looks goes without saying. In this social environment, looks are everything. And you've heard the expression that first appearance is what people go by. Before you go out, make sure you powder up and dress to turn heads. It will also help boost up your confidence. If you know that you've dressed to impress then you feel good. And you will move how you feel.

Last, but not least, be fun. Most women make the mistake of keeping that, 'approach me and die' face. This keeps but only the most aggressive men from approaching you. You want to appear approachable to any good prospect. Try smiling. Trust me ladies, nothing gets and holds the attention of a man, than a woman who struts in the room with both confidence and a smile. It tells a man, 'oh my goodness, I must approach her before the night is done.

Ladies, if this makes sense to you then get to it. If you're wondering how I'm so sure of this information then just take me. I'm a guy speaking from a guy's perspective. This is also actually what I've always wanted to tell a woman from both my encounters at social events and from what's been relayed from other guys.

If you would like to meet men to date.

Contact Della Cory
(02) 9436 1315
for a free consultation

Contact Della Cory
(02) 9436 1315
for a free consultation today

Sick of going to the same old cliché bars and clubs to try to find a person you’d like to date or get to know? This can seem hopeless over time, as who really finds their soul mate in a dark, dingy and loud bar anyways? But don’t give up on the potential of dating and resign yourself to a live of bachelorhood or spinsterdom just yet. Have you ever thought about going on to an online dating website to try and find your ideal match? While online dating sometimes gets a bad rep, there are those who really have a great experience with it and find the love of their life. We won’t lie and say it’s an entirely easy and painless process, but if you are fully committed to finding the person you’re meant to be with, then set up a profile and start looking!

So what are some of the benefits you’ll find when it comes to online dating? Well for starters, there is a high level of convenience to it. Just think – instead of setting aside entire evenings for a bar crawl, you could be at home, getting things done, and occasionally checking up on your dating profile to find the right match. And you can find out major life aspects and likes and dislikes of a person right away, without having to waste time and resources going out on dates with someone who you’ll never realistically be with for long term. In the instance of those with a hectic career and schedule, it is the perfect way to initiate contact with someone, without having to sacrifice your lifestyle right away.

Now that you understand all of the excellent benefits of hosting a profile on an online dating website – what’s next? Create a profile, update your information without being overly person, and begin looking for matches! If you’re any good at reading people, then you’ll be able to get a sense of them immediately by what they’ve written on their profile. No good at reading others? Then enlist a trusty friend to go through potential profiles with you. One important thing to note is that not all of what is written on these profiles is 100% true, so you need to be aware of this to avoid heartache. After acknowledging this, begin by looking at these potential candidates likes, dislikes, and try to see any photos that they’ve posted, and keep in mind that they may not be the most updated photos.

But don’t be too quick to fall in love with the words on an online profile! People aren’t always what they seem to be, and just because one person on a dating website is your first choice, doesn’t mean that you’re theirs. So how can you be emotionally vulnerable to a degree during this process, why still projecting caution? There are a few steps that make this possible. The first is to get as much detailed information about a candidate as you can. While you obviously don’t need to know their blood type and favorite side of the bed to sleep on, you do need to know what they do for a living, and if their views on children, politics and religion mirror yours, as those who don’t share some common interests end up bickering or having discussions that are in unfriendly territory, so you want someone compatible on that end.

Knowing that the Internet is not always the safest place is the next thing you need to know up front. Lying is easy when there are no body language cues or face to face contact involved, and you never know when you’re being lied to – or when you’re putting yourself in danger. You should never give out any highly personal or financial information to anyone you meet on the Internet, and when sharing any kind of personal information, you should do it in reasonable increments, instead of all at once. The last thing you want to do is to spill your heart out on the table to someone, only to have them lie to you or scam you in the long run. Putting on a semi-defensive skin will always help you.

If you decide you want to take this initial contact to the next level, and meet in person, it needs to be in a public space. Short on ideas for a public space to meet? Anywhere with people – it can be a library, coffee shop, community center, a restaurant. As long as there are a group of people around you to make sure that everything is safe, then you should be okay with meeting. Continue to meet with the person in public places until you know that you are comfortable enough to spend time with them alone in a private space. This is all about your comfort level, and when you think it’s right.

While it may be awkward, one thing that you should do is ask them openly and honestly about their past few relationships, and what broke them up. Don’t expect them to be 100% honest or open with you about this, particularly if it was a difficult break up. But if you do manage to get them to open up and they confide in you that they just got out of a long term relationship, then you need to be realistic in how quickly your relationship will progress. Chances are, if they just got out of a relationship, they’re not going to be so apt to jump back into it again so soon, so be patient.

If the person you’re speaking with on an online dating site is refusing to call, or meet up with you, then you need to be fairly suspicious. The whole point of going through the effort of online dating is to meet and date someone whom you like with similar interests – so why not? This usually tends to mean that the person is taken or married, or that their liar who isn’t being honest about everything that they had claimed to be true online in their dating profile.

 At the end of the day if online dating is not for you then a dating agency is a safe and more personalized approach. Check out these agencies if you are looking for a personal service.  for

elite dating agency http://www.dellacory.com 
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seniors dating agency http://www.seniorscontacts.com.au

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